Ok so I've been thinking about this for awhile and experiencing it more and more at work and public as my belly grows, and I'm sure pregnant women everywhere can relate.
Why does being pregnant mean you can say whatever you want to me? Especially as a stranger? Why do you suddenly have a strong opinion about very personal things in my life? Every single day this happens to me at work. I try really hard to ignore it, but sometimes it is just frustrating beyond belief.
The worst was a few weeks ago at work. This older man came in (first of all he was being annoyingly weird anyways talking to me in Spanish to be funny? I don't know it was odd I just ignore it.) He says to me, "Oh you're expecting a baby." I respond yes I am then he has the audacity to say, "Well I hope you're married, I didn't see a ring on your finger." I was in such shock that a complete stranger would say that to me I just said nope and took him to his table. I'm sorry but EFF YOU. Seriously?! How can you say that to someone you don't even know?!
It really just aggravated me the more I thought about it. Why do you get to judge me for that? You don't know anything about me! Thank god this isn't true, but what if something really bad had happened to me to get me pregnant? You never know! Aside from that, I bet this man would have a much stronger opinion if I had decided to have an abortion! So screw you old man!
My baby has two parents that will love her more than anything in the world and we love each other very much. She has two wonderful families that are supportive me and Ben 100% and already love her so very much. I am 24 years old, I have graduated from college, yes I am struggling a little bit right now, but I have many opportunities available for me. My daughter will always have a father in her life that loves her because I know Ben already loves her.
I'm sorry I am not married. Yes, I did this very much out of order from normal and it has been difficult some times, but I am healthy, my baby is healthy and I'm doing the best that I can. My child is not loved any less by her ENTIRE FAMILY because we are not legally married.
*Sigh* people have no tact.
Anyways, some other rude comments I get frequently:
- You're only having one baby?
- You're due any day now? No? Wow you're going to be huge!
- You're going to breastfeed right? You should
There were more but the one that gets me is people saying you're only 7 months?! Oh my gosh you're going to be huge!!! OK thank you I had no idea my stomach was so large, I really can't help that! I am only 5ft tall people! My torso is tiny! I was a 10lb baby when I was born and Ben is over 6ft tall! I can't help it! All of my weight is in my stomach (well a little bit in my butt and hips, but hey that's normal) and I'm not planning to lose weight right now! Sheesh people! Yes a lot of women look much better than me pregnant but I have no room anywhere else. Baby and I are working with what we got.
So after that, thank you to all the strangers who say really lovely things to me. Telling me I look beautiful pregnant and I'm carrying it well and that I'm glowing and my hair is lovely. I really appreciate it. I will talk to you all day long about my baby!
Ok so this is 8 weeks pregnant. Nothing. Tiny little bloating but nada on the baby bump. But I'm glad I took this pic for comparison!
~14 weeks. My belly starting showing really early on. I wasn't doing anything different, I think I am just small and my torso is short! Sorry baby!
~21 weeks. THAT is a baby. haha!
26 weeks ish at the beach last week! Yep I wore a bikini the whole time. I am not ashamed!
This is today at 27weeks and 3 days. I am not about to pop (hopefully) and stop with the huge comments! I FREAKING KNOW! I'm the one walking around with it all day and can't get comfy! But overall I really love my baby bump, no matter how big it is! I love feeling my baby wiggle all day, except when she gets rough, which she does. And being pregnant is one of the coolest things I've ever experienced in my life. But I will be very happy to have a beer again soon. soon. lol!
